Elaboration 25

Some educational experts, maintain that children are fundamentally 'takers', not givers (like their parents). This is a truth but ... only part of it. Everybody, all life, all ideation, is fundamentally based upon 'taking' (I, to have,). In all nature, parental care for the young is a very temporary exception. The seemingly altruism (see Spencer, Wells, Tietjens, etc.) which is in reality 'I, to have' too, is necessary for enabling evolution at all. In humans it should be in use to teach the child the self discipline necessary for the grown-up in a society, a tribe, a family. The (human) principle is: starting off with downright enforced discipline (hetero), later, gradually to be replaced by learned, taught, self-discipline. The properly balanced world-citizen, the true member of society, should remain a 'taker', but only in so far as is compatible with the very existence, the rights of other citizens. They have rights too. Look at the life-example, a life-cell in one's body, say the liver. Its task is not simply to function as liver. That comes a long way second. Its first task is to remain alive (is: to take). The second task is indeed to do liver work, and the third is to keep an eye on its neighbours. All three come down to control.